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Find out about the various types of abusive relationships here and what to do if you are in one.
When someone really likes or loves you, they treat you with respect and you're free to say no to things you don't want to do. You feel like you can truly be yourself - even if you are different to the other person. The most important thing is that you're free and safe to do as you like.
This doesn't sound like my relationship...
If any of the following things are happening to you, you could be in an abusive relationship.
When someone who is supposed to love you treats you badly, it can be very hurtful. They might not always treat you like this - so you might think, "It's not that bad". But if someone really likes or loves you, they should treat you with respect, always.
Should I end the relationship?
Working out whether to stay in a relationship or break up can be a hard decision. Maybe you still love them or feel that you would be nothing without them. Maybe you feel trapped or scared of what they might do if you leave.
So, what can I do?
Have a break
from the relationship, if you can, or don't see each other as much. Give
yourself time to think. It can help to write your feelings down.
Find someone to talk to, so you feel less alone: a friend, a sister or brother, a relative, your parents, teacher or ring a helpline. It may help to get a different perspective if you're unsure about some of your partner's behaviour.
There's a comprehensive list of websites and helplines relating to abuse in relationships on this page at the This Is Abuse website.
you talk to shouldn't judge or criticise you. Helpline workers will
keep what you tell them private (unless they think you are in immediate
danger). You should always call the police if you are in danger. Remember -
violence is a crime. You can find a comprehensive list of worldwide helplines on our Suicide Prevention page.
I think my friend's in an abusive relationship, what can I do?
If you think your friend is being abused, here are some ideas on how to provide support.
For more about helping a friend that you think may be suffering abuse, AVA Project (Against Violence and Abuse) have created this resource for young people.
Remember, abuse is not normal in a relationship, and it's not OK.